Knowing the importance of female friendships and craving connection with other women I registered for a five day femininity workshop. I attended one last year and even though this one was completely revamped I just thought it would be a good opportunity to meet other women and not really push any of my buttons.
Was I ever wrong.
The first four days were for the first four chakras; day one was for your Muladhara (root) chakra, day two was for Svadhisthana (sacral) chakra, day three was for Manipura (solar plexus) chakra, day four was for Anahata (heart) chakra and the fifth day we focused mostly on Vishuddha (throat) chakra as well as Ajna (third eye) and Sahasrara (crown) chakra.
On the first day we were given a lecture around getting iinto and connecting with our body. After dancing around to heavy tribal drumming we were given an exercise.
We were asked to get into groups of four women and one by one undress in front of each other. Our directions were to take turns getting undressed down to our underwear and then stand in front of the other three women and tell them what we don’t like about her bodies. Once we were done we were to continue standing naked in front of the group as the other three women would then tell us what they liked about our body and we were to just stand there, not saying anything and receive the compliments.
My heart was so nervous about participating in this activity and being naked in a room with 40 other women.
As my group got together two brave women went before me and I was so surprised to hear what they didn’t like about their bodies as I thought they were beautiful.
Then it came to be my turn, I was definitely feeling the fear. I first removed my skirt, followed by my shirt to which I then explained my birthmark that covers my entire left arm, once my shirt was off I removed my bra. There I was with only my underwear on standing before three other woman as they gazed over my body, all while forty other women were doing the same thing.
I proceeded to tell them what I didn’t like about my body: the birthmark that covers my entire left arm, my stomach, it’s too fat and wide and my thighs and hips. Once I was done it was their turn to tell me what they liked about my body and I wasn’t allowed to speak. They proceeded to tell me that they loved the shape of my body, how they liked my womanly curves, they also commented on my features and they acknowledged that my birthmark was there but they didn’t see it with my same eyes as me, it wasn’t as loaded with shame and disgust as it is with me. I felt accepted and received by these women.
Once we were all done the entire group all sat in a circle, all forty women naked looking at each other and revering each others bodies.
Safe to say connections were built. We were all so loving, supportive and complimentary towards each other. It felt so good to be loved by other women and my heart opened that much more.
To my new sisters, your love for the others and the courage for yourself will stay with me forever. We were all touched and changed by that workshop and I feel and know that we did something for women everywhere. Thank you for showing up, I love you all.